A Pep Talk for When You Need One

I feel very unqualified for the following thoughts but it’s time for me to get out of my own head.

I’m feeling stuck. I’m feeling tired. I’m making excuses and talking myself out of a lot of things.

I am scared. I am worried. I overthink. I overanalyze.

BUT…I think it’s time for a pep talk for a change.

If you’re anything like me, you can be your biggest bully. I can be really mean to myself. I belittle, question and disregard myself alllll the time. And while I spend so much time lying to myself, I could be doing all the fun and amazing things I actually WANT to be doing.

Personally, my struggle comes from my inner critic battling my outer creative self. If you’ve gotten to know me through this blog (or we are real life friends), then you’ll know how much I love to create. I have passion for design and creative projects. Sometimes I think I have so much passion, I don’t really know what to do with all of it…so what do I end up doing? Absolutely N-O-T-H-I-N-G. And frankly it’s getting me nowhere and causing a lot of unnecessary happiness.

Do you ever question all of you life choices on a weekly basis? I do.

I spend a lot of time–too much time–doing that. And all the time I spent being horrible to myself and telling myself why I shouldn’t do something has created a hole I feel I can’t crawl out of.

I don’t want to complain. I don’t want to come off whiny because my life really isn’t horrible. All of my complaints are very much First-World Problems with a capital P. But that doesn’t make them any less real to me. And while I logically know the steps I can take to make myself happier, more productive, more creative–my inner critic is really just so mean. Seriously, she’s the worst. And while this may be the 100,000th time I’m telling myself I am going make a change, I really really want to make it stick.

I decided it would be good to share a pep talk with myself and all of you. We may not have the same struggles or the same desires but we all can be a little too hard on ourselves. It’s time for that to stop.

A Pep Talk for When You Need One

The next time your inner critic is berating you try to remember the following:

  • You are not a failure.
  • You are learning, growing and developing into your best self. Patience is key.
  • You are not alone. Reach out to a friend–someone you trust. If you feel something, say something.
  • It’s okay to take a break. Breaks do not make you a quitter.
  • Learn to trust yourself but recognize when you’re lying to yourself.
  • A little bit of work each day gets you closer to achieving your goals.
  • Are you trying your best? You are? Good.
  • You are enough.

A lot of this is easier said than done, I know. It will take a lot of practice, especially if ‘inner critic’ is your default mode (I know mine is). I’m working on forming healthy habits and treating myself with kindness first. Battling your inner critic is so exhausting and unsustainable. We’re all just human trying to do our best, right?

Let’s make kindness our first response.

 

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